My Motherhood Story

Motherhood

My motherhood journey began with a high-risk pregnancy that kept me in bed for much of the time. While I was blessed with a healthy and beautiful baby girl, I also faced the reality of gaining 34 extra kilograms. More than 50% of my then-body weight in only 9 months!

Just a few blinks after giving birth I found myself drowning in breastfeeding challenges, sleepless nights, acceptance of my so foreign postpartum body, and imperfect parenting skills.

Nearly losing my child to a fever-induced seizure, just a day after her first birthday gave me another ton of parenting insecurities and fuelled my need to control everything around her. Hands down to my little one; despite all her early life obstacles, and me, wrapping her in cotton wool, she magically grew strong and healthy.

Long gone were the times when I believed, that I am on top of every aspect of my journey through motherhood. This rollercoaster of constant learning and resistance, unexpected challenges and compromises, and permanent growth has never been managed before me and will never be in the future. And so I surrendered, traded my micromanager’s hat for a billion different (and new) ones, and patiently started getting to know my new self.

My Motherhood Story

My motherhood journey began with a high-risk pregnancy that kept me in bed for much of the time. While I was blessed with a healthy and beautiful baby girl, I also faced the reality of gaining 34 extra kilograms. More than 50% of my then-body weight in only 9 months!

Just a few blinks after giving birth I found myself drowning in breastfeeding challenges, sleepless nights, acceptance of my so foreign postpartum body, and imperfect parenting skills.

Nearly losing my child to a fever-induced seizure, just a day after her first birthday gave me another ton of parenting insecurities and fuelled my need to control everything around her. Hands down to my little one; despite all her early life obstacles, and me, wrapping her in cotton wool, she magically grew strong and healthy.

Long gone were the times when I believed, that I am on top of every aspect of my journey through motherhood. This rollercoaster of constant learning and resistance, unexpected challenges and compromises, and permanent growth has never been managed before me and will never be in the future. And so I surrendered, traded my micromanager’s hat for a billion different (and new) ones, and patiently started getting to know my new self.

Motherhood

A decade later, after an unnecessarily rough divorce process, I made the decision to build a new life for us two. This time, abroad.

A minute after we found our new home, we also faced unexpected social challenges: new friends, or no friends, a foreign language, her new school, my new job, her teenaging struggles, my renewed dating life, her rejecting my new partner, and new to everyone co-parenting hiccups after all. And finally, her becoming a young woman and me feeling less and less needed in her life now.

It takes a village to raise a child, they say. Yet when there’s no village, you often find yourself at the helm, crafting a different support system for your child. Sometimes, we must believe that the most powerful villages are the ones we create ourselves. It comes with a price, though. It develops Superpowers but often times leaves us lonely, piling up insecurities and misbalances our femininity.

Let me be real—motherhood isn’t a walk in the park; it’s a 24/7 investment of time, knowledge, and patience. Having it all under control is as mythical as a unicorn. Perfect parenting? Nope, just a fairy tale.

A decade later, after an unnecessarily rough divorce process, I made the decision to build a new life for us two. This time, abroad.

A minute after we found our new home, we also faced unexpected social challenges: new friends, or no friends, a foreign language, her new school, my new job, her teenaging struggles, my renewed dating life, her rejecting my new partner, and new to everyone co-parenting hiccups after all. And finally, her becoming a young woman and me feeling less and less needed in her life now.

It takes a village to raise a child, they say. Yet when there’s no village, you often find yourself at the helm, crafting a different support system for your child. Sometimes, we must believe that the most powerful villages are the ones we create ourselves. It comes with a price, though. It develops Superpowers but often times leaves us lonely, piling up insecurities and misbalances our femininity.

Let me be real—motherhood isn’t a walk in the park; it’s a 24/7 investment of time, knowledge, and patience. Having it all under control is as mythical as a unicorn. Perfect parenting? Nope, just a fairy tale.

I’m openly sharing my motherhood journey to remind you that you’re not alone. And you don’t have to deal with this all by yourself.

Many of us are experiencing challenges. We’re constantly dealing with the social pressure to be perfect; maternal guilt when prioritising self-care; postpartum body issues diminishing our self esteem and our sexuality. We are going through an identity crisis, intimacy problems and time management challenges. When it all builds up it’s important to reach out for support and connect with somebody whom you can trust and who can relate to your experiences.

Don’t sit there by yourself if you are reading and nodding, or sobbing because you are tired, lonely and sick of being taken for granted and you’re starting to forget why you wanted children in the first place!

Book a motherhood coaching session with me. Whether you just need a pair of ears to vent to and be heard without judgement, a skilled coach to put a pin on your problems, or a motherhood guide who will teach you skills that will help you thrive through your problems. Or maybe you are looking for somebody to celebrate these little parenting victories that look silly to others? Book a Discovery Call with me.

Your motherhood story is unique; I’m here to get to know yours and share all I’ve learned along the way.

Chin up and speak soon!
Zaneta

I’m openly sharing my motherhood journey to remind you that you’re not alone. And you don’t have to deal with this all by yourself.

Many of us are experiencing challenges. We’re constantly dealing with the social pressure to be perfect; maternal guilt when prioritising self-care; postpartum body issues diminishing our self esteem and our sexuality. We are going through an identity crisis, intimacy problems and time management challenges. When it all builds up it’s important to reach out for support and connect with somebody whom you can trust and who can relate to your experiences.

Don’t sit there by yourself if you are reading and nodding, or sobbing because you are tired, lonely and sick of being taken for granted and you’re starting to forget why you wanted children in the first place!

Book a motherhood coaching session with me. Whether you just need a pair of ears to vent to and be heard without judgement, a skilled coach to put a pin on your problems, or a motherhood guide who will teach you skills that will help you thrive through your problems. Or maybe you are looking for somebody to celebrate these little parenting victories that look silly to others? Book a Discovery Call with me.

Your motherhood story is unique; I’m here to get to know yours and share all I’ve learned along the way.

Chin up and speak soon!
Zaneta

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