Over the years, I’ve found that nurturing my feminine energy, is not only important for my well-being but also essential for my relationship with my child. Let’s talk about why it’s harmful to completely neglect your feminine energy and how you can reconnect with the parts of yourself that make you feel whole, powerful, and, yes—sexy (even when there’s no man on the horizon)!

Being a single mom is undoubtedly one of the most rewarding and challenging roles I’ve ever had. As we pour every ounce of ourselves into raising our children, it’s easy to lose touch with the part of us that isn’t just a caregiver, but a vibrant, sensual, and powerful woman. The world often expects us to focus on motherhood exclusively, as though our desires, beauty, and sexuality should be set aside in favor of raising the next generation. But what happens when we do that? What happens to the woman who was once full of dreams, energy, and a sense of herself outside of motherhood?

Why It’s Harmful to Forget About Your Feminine Energy

I won’t sugarcoat it: it’s hard to keep your feminine energy alive when you’re a single mom. You’re juggling a million things, from work to parenting to managing your home, and often it feels like there’s little time (or energy) left for yourself. But here’s the truth: ignoring your femininity is harmful to both your mental and physical health.

1. Emotional Exhaustion: If you pour all your energy into being a mom without considering your own needs, you risk emotional burnout. You’re operating on empty, and it’s tough to maintain any sense of personal identity beyond motherhood.

2. Disconnection from Your Desires: When you don’t take the time to nurture your sensuality and femininity, you might find yourself disconnected from your own desires—whether it’s for love, pleasure, or simply feeling beautiful. And that disconnection can lead to frustration or feelings of inadequacy.

3. Impact on Self-Love: Ignoring your body, your beauty, and your sexuality can also hinder your self-love journey. Research shows that women who neglect their own needs and self-care are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem. And when that happens, it’s harder to be present for your child in the way you want to be.

Reconnecting with Your Feminine Energy

So, how do we nurture our feminine energy when we’re already stretched so thin? Here are a few ways you can reignite that powerful, vibrant part of yourself:

1. Celebrate Your Beauty

One thing I discovered as a single mom was the power of selfies. It may sound superficial at first, but taking time to witness my appearance—even if there’s no man around—had a profound impact on my self-esteem. Doing my makeup, styling my hair, and dressing in a way that made me feel beautiful reminded me that I was more than just a mom. I was a woman.

Studies back this up. A study in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology found that self-care practices—like taking care of your appearance—boost self-esteem and mental health. It’s not about vanity; it’s about self-love.

2. Embrace Your Sexuality, Even Without a Partner

Sexual energy doesn’t disappear just because you’re single, and it doesn’t need to be tied to a partner. Sexual exploration, even solo, is healthy and empowering. I personally found it transformative to embrace my sexual energy on my own terms. Solo activities like masturbation or using vibrators can help you reconnect with your body and desires, boosting emotional well-being.

Dr. Laura Berman, a leading sex educator, suggests that satisfying yourself sexually can improve self-worth and emotional health, even without a partner. This doesn’t just benefit your physical health—it nurtures your inner confidence and sense of self.

3. Reclaim Your Desires Without Shame

You’re allowed to desire things beyond motherhood—whether that’s love, intimacy, or pleasure. Society often conditions us to suppress our needs as mothers, but that leads to frustration and burnout. It’s okay to want to feel sexy, desired, or connected. By embracing these desires, you show your child that it’s healthy to express your needs and set boundaries. This teaches them how to honor themselves as well.

4. Pause and Rediscover Your Feminine Energy

Take moments to be with yourself, reconnecting with activities that make you feel alive. It doesn’t need to be time-consuming. Whether it’s dancing, journaling, or simply enjoying a hobby that sparks joy, these small moments of connection help you feel whole again. Rediscovering your passions and creativity outside of motherhood can reignite your sense of self.

As a single mom, it’s easy to put yourself last. But nurturing your feminine energy is not selfish; it’s necessary. You deserve to feel beautiful, sexy, and powerful. Embracing your sexual energy, honouring your desires, and taking care of your self-esteem can improve your emotional health, strengthen your bond with your child, and allow you to be the best version of yourself.

So, take that selfie. Explore your body. Reclaim your desires. Nurture your feminine energy. You are not just a mom—you are a woman, vibrant, powerful, and full of potential. Be proud, not ashamed of who you are. You deserve it.